Your husband/wife are a gift from God. Gifts that need to be unwrapped. I know that you two have differences. Different personalities, different interests, different likes, different dislikes. Face it, you are two completely different people! How do we deal with those differences? Do we fight about whose right or whose wrong? Do we compete with each other saying do this or do that, butting head’s at every corner? If so, STOP IT!
Embrace those differences. Those differences are why you two are together. Don’t you know when God created you. He created both male and female.
Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh”. Those differences that we view as confrontational should be embraced. You are together, you complete each other, you are one flesh.
Those differences can cause strife and division; if you allow them to, so don’t allow that to happen. Embrace them, see your husband/wife differences as filling that void in your life, remember where you are weak they are strong and where you are strong they are most likely weak.
Men, if you can grab hold of the fact that your wife is sent by God to complete you; she was made for you according to Genesis 2:22 “and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man”.
Women, if you can grab hold of the fact that God created you to help your man according to Genesis 2:18 “and the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him”.
Marriage, like everything else we do, it is a learning experience.
Men when your wife nag’s at you (telling you, your doing this or that wrong), instead of getting angry keep it in perspective. She is doing what she is designed to do, she is trying to help you. And women try not to mother your husband like he is a kid (although at times we act like kid’s), it will demean him and make him think of himself less than what God has created him to be. Your husband craves your respect.
Men, praying for our wife’s is like washing them with the water of the Word of God. Keep in mind, you cannot change her just like she cannot change you. Women you should pray for yourself, to submit unto your husband, just as Christ is head of the church the husband is head of the wife.
Keeping in mind praying for your spouse, but first pray for yourself that your spirit will cooperate with Holy Spirit and allow Him to change you from the inside out; so that you can be all your spouse wants and needs you to be.
Embrace the goodness in each other!
By Guy and Nancy Bernard (Married Couples Leader)